I had a lesson on Audie Sunday, and I was having a difficult time following instructions. Imagine that, ME having a hard time following instructions. The older I get, the more stubborn I become. This is not a good thing. It’s a bad idea to be stubborn, because like my dear old dad always used to say, THE ONLY THING IN LIFE YOU CAN TRULY COUNT ON IS EVERYTHING’S GOING TO CHANGE. He didn’t mean it in a pessimistic way, he was trying to teach me to go with the flow.
When I get in a funk, or when I stop listening, the only thing that comes out of it is exhaustion. My friend, Ruth, was watching from up above. Audie, unlike my little Belle, thinks it’s a good idea to conserve her energy, so I was working REALLY HARD to get her to go forward. I was so focused on my task, I wasn’t listening to my trainer who was telling me to take a break. I heard Ruth holler, “You look tired! That doesn’t look fun!” My knee-jerk reaction was to scowl at her, but her comment was meant to snap me out of it. I finally stopped, took a few deep breaths, let Audie take several, and pondered what had just happened.
I was the problem, not the horse.
After I reset my brain and let go of the intense need to accomplish THAT EXACT TASK, I remembered that not everything goes as planned, sometimes communication breaks down, and sometimes you just have to go back to the basics. Whether it’s training horses, building a business, dealing with a coworker you don’t connect with or getting along with your spouse, nothing good comes from a lack of ability to laugh at yourself. Or just laugh, period. Laughing literally relieves stress, and is well documented. Here’s a short article from MAYO CLINIC illustrating this point.
If you don’t want to read another article, I suggest Bob and Tom in the morning. Locally, they are on The Beach, 95.3 every morning. They are nationally syndicated, so find the radio station in your area and give them a go. If you don’t laugh at them, I don’t know what to tell you.