Good morning! On this special Monday, the 16th anniversary of the 9/11 attack, and Irma pummeling Florida (with Jose on her heels), I am feeling grateful. I have been reading the book “The 4-Hour Workweek” by Tim Ferriss. It’s an easy read, and I like his creativity. He points out that we humans tend to believe that we have to do what everyone else is doing. Specifically, he discusses the idea that we go to work all day every day for 30 or 40 years (or more), because we are hoping to retire someday. I have a lot of friends who are nurses, which makes sense, of course, and I think all of us personally have met people who “just retired” and now, all of a sudden (or not), they are disabled, chronically ill, acutely ill, or even dead. So much for working hard to be “FREE” and retired!
After I finished chemo in 2008, I decided to live more in the moment. I think that’s when my husband began to believe I was losing (or had lost) my mind. I started signing up for horseback riding clinics, I planned vacations, and I generally changed my attitude toward this thing we call retirement. I met some great new friends, most of whom I wouldn’t have otherwise met, I learned a lot about myself, and I became more brave about venturing outside of my comfort zone. I have absolutely no regrets about spending that time and money to do things I always wanted to do.
However, I slowly began to go back to the “old” way of thinking, and once again, I was living to work, instead of working to live. Although I liked my job, and I especially enjoyed the people I met along the way, I was spending way too much time there, or thinking about being there, or working from home, and I had to reset, once again. Now I realize that in order to be different, I have to be intentional about being different every single day.
The only thing we have is this moment in time. Obviously, we must be responsible so that we don’t starve to death or end up on the street somewhere. As I tell myself daily, I want to share with you, also. The power of your brain is an untapped resource. Stop telling yourself you can’t. Stop beating yourself up for all the mistakes of the past. Stop being afraid of the unknown. You are capable, unique and beautiful. Your worst fear is not actually going to happen, and if it does, you will look back and say, “that wasn’t as bad as I thought.” So go out there and live the life you’ve always wanted!